Let’s start with some truth:

Self-promotion can feel gross.

Being told to “toot your own horn” more than likely goes against everything you were told you should do when you were growing up.

Women are told not to brag, to be humble and don’t be too loud.

Oh, and Dear Girl, you must never, ever talk about money!

Sound familiar?

You are told to turn your volume DOWN because being your bold and outspoken self will turn people off.

It’s not polite to express yourself honestly and with enthusiasm, especially when it goes against the grain.

ARGHHHH!!!!

Now here you are starting and growing a business, something that means THE world to you, and you need nerves of steel to tell the world that you are gifted, talented, skillful and an expert at something, who also expects to get paid! And the cat’s got your tongue.

Coach Karen Graves

 

So you do as you were told; turn your volume down and try to find the “Good Girl’s Way” to be seen and heard.

You give advice (lots and lots of free advice), you give your time (lots and lots of your time), you help people feel good, you play well in the sandbox with others.

And it doesn’t ever quite feel right—it doesn’t feel quite like you.

Which is how I used to feel.

When I got laid off of my corporate gig in 2007 I was elated! I literally prayed for a severance package because it would give me the seed money I needed and no excuses to jump into entrepreneurship.

It was my time! I was a coach and I was going to change the world!

Except, when I realized I would have to actually tell people I was a coach, that I could help them and I would charge money for that help. {GULP!}  The enthusiasm I originally felt about my new venture started to wane.

How the heck do I even explain what I do in a way that they could understand me and not sound like a babbling fool, let alone ask them for money?

What if I sounded like a fraud? What if I was too much to take or came across as overly confident?

I worried I would piss people off so I softened my approach. I ended up not saying things that mattered. I was nice. I was vanilla. I blended in. I kept my opinions to myself.

I swallowed my words. 

So instead of putting myself out there in the world too worried to get rejected or laughed at, I made myself busy enough that at least it felt like I was making progress.

I bought programs (tens of thousands of dollars worth). I joined high-level masterminds. I networked with “like-minded individuals”. I spent at least 3 years nailing my niche (seriously).

I’d have moments with big wins, like 5-figure months and a sold out one day event and then when I’d feel like I was shining too brightly, I’d second-guess myself and retreat back to the safety of being quiet again.

The clients did not come as quickly as I wanted or needed.

The cash flow would be up, down or nonexistent.

Then I finally got fed up and frustrated enough to quit.

I quit lying to myself.

I quit believing that my voice didn’t matter.

I quit thinking that the work that I did wasn’t valuable.

I quit feeding into the belief that there wasn’t space in the world for my unique perspective.

I quit allowing myself to accept that I didn’t deserve to get paid and paid well for what I did!

Instead I decided to own the heck out of my genius and do the work I KNEW in my bones I was called to do.

I decided to promote myself without shame because there is no shame in wanting to do good work in the world.

The clients came and continue to come.

The cash flow too.

Owning my genius didn’t come overnight. I surely took the long route, which is why I want to shorten your path. I went through the ups, downs and heavy financial burdens—hopefully so you never have to again believe that your voice, your gifts, and your talents aren’t worth knowing about and investing in.

I want you to know that you are valuable, have something valuable to offer and the world needs to know now.

It’s YOUR time to make some noise—shame-LESSly.

So if you’re ready to create a profitable business, make some noise and make a big impact in the world, let’s get this party started.

Are you in?

Yes, I’m in!

A Peek Behind My Curtain: 

After being a lifelong Northeastener I relocated to the South and currently reside in central Virginia with my handsome professional body builder hubby, awesome and amazing baby girl (well she’s a pre-teen, but always my baby) and furbaby boy. My awesome and amazing oldest daughter lives in Florida and as of this writing is putting up the finishing touches on baking my grandbaby boy in her belly. Beyond loving my family, I love the beach, like seriously, love the beach. I also love dancing, good food (bacon is high on my list), good wine, playing cards, board games, playing dominoes and smoking hookahs on occasion. You will catch me riding horses and riding around in my Mini Cooper. I am adventurous enough to run mud races, parasail,and bike ride from the top of a volcano. I love my laptop (Mac) for the flexibility and livestreaming. Oh and I love livestreaming. You can see me do that here. I guess the only thing left to say is, I love the life that I am creating.