“Why are so many coaches broke?”
This question used to piss me off. It was one I asked many times with no satisfying answer.
And it made me angry.
I was angry at the coaching industry.
I was at angry at struggling coaches for getting duped by the coaching industry.
I was angry I was a struggling coach getting duped by the coaching industry.
And my bank account showed it.
Anger made me blame.
I blamed the industry, mentors, non buyers, clients who were a poor fit, and anybody I could think of for my lack of achievement.
Anger made me look for problems.
I focused on what wasn’t working instead of paying attention to what was.
Anger made me skeptical.
I didn’t trust what may have been good guidance.
Anger made me lonely.
I couldn’t share the shame of not being a “successful coach” with my colleagues, my friends— my family.
Ultimately, anger became too costly to carry. It painted me in a corner riddled with confusion and self-doubt.
I HAD to find a new approach, so I asked a different question…
“Why are there so many thriving coaches?”
With this question I stopped pointing fingers.
I took personal responsibility and realized it was up to me to change the situation, not wait for it to change.
With this question I found solutions.
I sought out what worked instead of what didn’t.
With this question I found trust.
I received solid guidance from mentors and amazing colleagues.
With this question I found success—my success.
I finally shared more of who I am, not who I thought I needed to be—proudly, shameLESSly.
And with this, a better question, the world opened up.
What questions do YOU have?
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